Welcome and thank you for visiting After Arthur, this site was created following the loss of my Son, Arthur in July 2017. I was 36 weeks pregnant when Arthur died. I had a very simple and straight forward pregnancy, Arthur died due to a tight true knot in his umbilical cord. Something that cannot be predicted or prevented.
After Arthur died my world grew smaller, old friends vanished overnight and I felt so alone. I turned to the internet, desperate to find others that may understand my grief. In that search not only did I find others, (sadly, I actually found lots of them), I also discovered that Stillbirth although uncommon is not rare, in the UK 1 in 200 pregnancies end in Stillbirth, but yet nobody talks about it. Over 3,600 babies are stillborn in the UK each year and yet there is a deafening silence over this.
For that reason, I created ‘After Arthur’, this is our journey through the darkest time in our lives, our way of trying to navigate the world whilst carrying the baby we love in our hearts rather than our arms, this is me trying to find my ‘New Normal’ and accepting that it is ok to smile again.
This is life after loss and this is parenting after loss, my honest and open account.
This is for Arthur and his memory, the story of a far too short but very beautiful life and all that comes after it.
Arthur, loved past the stars and missed beyond the moon.